Monday, 28 August 2017

Sex During Pregnancy

I really couldn't decide whether to write this post or not because I thought it might be TMI but then something hilarious happened and then I decided I absolutely had to write this post. I'm not going to lie, I haven't actually had that much sex since finding out I was pregnant, but I feel I've had enough, with different results, to warrant this post. So, if you don't want to read about my sex life or you're my niece, please stop reading now.

I honestly thought that my libido was gone for good for a few weeks. Eventually I felt well enough to attempt sex again and honestly, I wish I hadn't bothered. It may have had something to do with having to stop the headboard from hitting the wall but I just wasn't feeling it and it wasn't happening. Ash gave it a good try but I just couldn't finish, it was so frustrating! Slowly but surely I found my libido again. Unfortunately it was always while Ash was either at work or in his own bed so I, quite literally, had to take things into my own hands. Finally got those batteries I'd been missing. That was...interesting. I won't go into details here, I already feel like there's too much info. 

Fast forward to 11(ish) weeks pregnant and staying with Ash. Basically we ended up having sex 3 times in two days, he couldn't believe his luck. Usually I physically can't have sex that regularly so those hormones were really doing us a favour. Unfortunately I still wasn't able to orgasm but the sex itself felt so good I didn't care. But then the pain set in and we couldn't have sex anymore (cry cry cry) and we didn't see each other properly for a couple of weeks. 

Then, 14 weeks happened and we had a week to ourselves in the hotel room. Ohh damn, those first two nights were amazing. By 11 weeks I could already appreciate how much more sensitive I was but this was something else, like holy shit. I orgasmed so hard I cried! And yes, that was the aforementioned 'something hilarious'. Poor Ash was so confused and I was...embarrassed. Thanks hormones. But it was the best orgasm I have ever had, those tears just make it all the more memorable. 

The worst part of it was the increased need-to-pee sensation when the g-spot is hit. I was on top once and it was being hit perfectly and I was so conflicted because I wanted to orgasm, but I was so scared that I would end up peeing instead! I'm sure I wouldn't have but the concern was so real I had to change position and ruined everything. For me anyway, Ash was still pretty happy. Also, Ash wanted to put his two cents in and say that it "felt the same for him, but he enjoyed it more because I enjoyed it more."

Coming up to 5 months pregnant I really wasn't all that fussed about sex. Sure, we still had intimate moments but I just really wasn't in the mood for it. Which upset Ash as he's pretty much always in the mood for it and "thought pregnant people were horny all the time." Afraid not, boo. It actually caused us to fall out over it and not speak for a while around 24 weeks, because it was virtually all he would talk about and it royally pissed me off. Seriously, there's nothing more of a turn off than your other half constantly whinging at you that he's horny when you're not. Just back off and let me come to you, okay? Which I actually tried to do a couple weeks later, but he was feeling down so wasn't up for it. Always the way.

Then he broke up with me and we didn't have sex again. Not because I didn't want to I can assure you, my libido was sky high towards the end of the third trimester. I even tried to seduce him into sexting once but he just wouldn't play along so I felt well and truly embarrassed, and never tried it again. I sort of felt like I should just ask him outright for sex, play the "I'm carrying your child, the least you could do is make me cum" card but it probably wasn't going to end well, and we'd just end up back in the hey-I'm-still-in-love-with-you-please-take-me-back awkwardness that I've had to endure far too many times since April. 

So yeah, pregnancy makes you way more sensitive but not necessarily horny all the time. If you're in the early days of your first pregnancy: tell your partner that now before it's too late and he gets whiney that you're not horny. 

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